Episode 2: Marriage is a universal norm
In the name of Allah
the most Gracious, the most Merciful
Indeed, from the universal norms of Allah is that he made of everything pairs, two and two, each one completes the other and dwells in tranquillity with the other. The Almighty said: (And of everything we have created in pairs that you may reflect) (1).
So, from plants (He created) pairs. The Almighty said: (and of all fruits he placed therein pairs, two and two) (2), and said: (He has sent down water from the sky and thereby we have brought forth diverse kinds of vegetation) (3).
And from animals (He created) pairs. The Almighty said: (and of the cattle also pairs, whereby He multiplies you) (4), and He said: (We said: load therein two of every kind, a pair) (5).
And, from human beings a pair; the Almighty said: (He creates the two spouses, the male and the female) (6), and He said: (Allah created you from dust, and then from a little fluid, and then he made you pairs) (7).
And made it, Almighty, of the traditions of prophets and messengers the best of all creatures. He, the Almighty, said: (We sent messengers before you, and we appointed for them wives and offspring) (8).
In the Statement, he, peace and blessing be upon him, said: (These four are of the traditions of the Messengers: shyness, wearing perfume, wedlock and brushing the teeth with Siwak) (9).
The Prophet, peace and blessing be upon him, refuted those who abstained from marriage out of devotion to worship and monasticism, he said: By Allah! I’m the most fearful of you to Allah and most pious to Him, but I fast and break my fast, I stand in prayer and I sleep, and marry women, so whoever turns away from my Tradition, is not from me (10).
For this reason, scholars made it desirable for the married person to intend by his marriage the realization of the Sunnah and the safeguarding of his religion and his honor. Therefore, do not break brother/ sister from the norms of this wide universe by shunning marriage while able to, may Allah help us and you.
(1) Surah Adh-Dhariyat, verse
(2) Surah Ar Ra’d, verse 3.
(3) Surah Ta Ha, verse 53.
(4) Surah Ash-Shura, verse 11.
(5) Surah Hud, verse 40.
(6) Surah An-Najm, verse 45.
(7) Surah Fatir, verse 11.
(8) Surah Ar-Ra’d, verse 38.
(9) Narrated by At-Tirmidhi, Book of Marriage, Chapter: What came on the virtues of marriage, Statement 1086-2/272, and Sa’eed bin Mansoor in his Sunan, Book of Marriage, Chapter: Making Marriage Desirable, Statement 503-1/141, and Ahmad 5/421. The Statement in weak due to the weakness of one of its narrators, who is Al-Hajjaj bin Artat or ‘Artat, with it being Mudallas (weak, with a chain of “forged” transmitters) and the ignorance of one of its narrators. The Statement does have testimonials, but weak ones. Al Albani, may Allah have mercy on him, classed the Statement as weak in Irwa’ Al-Ghaleel, Statement 75-/116-199.
(10) Agreed upon. Narrated by Bukhari Stetement 5063-9/104 with Fat’h Al-Baari, and Muslim 9/175 with the Explanation of An-Nawawi.